...Spider?... Cobweb?...or both?

 It was raining outside...after an intense patch of sultry weather,the weatherman had predicted it ,and lately 😃they have been bang on too!  With the clouds  blackening , the rain turning into a thunderstorm. The trees were waving wildly and, the branches and leaves dancing merrily, almost crazily as if intoxicated.It was only the firmness of roots in the ground which seemed to be holding the trees wanting to fly out into the arms of the celeberatory weather...as if in abandonment. I opened all the doors and windows to let in the  buoyancy of rain and breeze to soak and replace the heavily humid environment of my home....to purge it out !

 In keeping with the weather, I sat myself to a treat of samosas and a cup of hot piping tea...Inhaling the misty fresh air as I was settling into the nook of the sofa, I saw a spider slowly crawl along the  doorway into my  room. Sorry !I am not scared of spiders🤪!!! so somewhat fascinated, I followed it's movement...it made its way to the ceiling and  slowly began to spin its web, and my mind went into its  own spin telescoping into my childhood...! Oh Yes, Webbing is done by humans too . No!No,no, No!...I am not talking about IT web and webbing 😂 certainly not!! but the other kind ...

 On my mind's monitor, emerged my aunt image, who in her inimitable style of-arre yeh toh bataao...?...aisaa hai kya? tumhe kuch pataa hai kya...? ....aisaa tumne bhi kuchch sunaa hai kya? and  then spining numerous reels of gossip. I particularly did not like her to come especially after the exam results, as I wasn't a very bright students...for when she came, she lauded her children's academic achievements. My parents under the 'pressure of comparison' would be defensive and dole out excuses of🙃 '...sab kuchh toh kar rahe hain!.... tution bhi laga rakha hai!...itne achche school mein bhi padha rahe hain!... Kisi ko nahi padhna toh hum kya kar sakte hain...😔'. This was an annual ritual...😏for 2-3 years until I stabilized my academic performance to satisfactory levels. My aunt left after rubbing the salt thoroughly in😰, some  collateral damage 🥺had to happen... would happen!!! I have elephant ears...😂. Jokes apart,I never was able to understand, how was I  responsible for my under-acheivement - decision to change city, hence school, teachers, friends ...my total meleiu had been of my parents, and my non-adjustment to it showed in my school results. Taking forward my Aunt's story, it so later emerged that unaware to her own self, her own son was doing drugs and bunking school. He could just complete his school and flunked in his graduation...in contrast to what I achieved academically and professionally. But that's beside the point...

Slowly as I grew up, I became wary of people who would ask / talk about others. I likened them to spiders- delicate, seemingly unharming but toxic when in contact. Lots of people, with this Spiderish...let's call them (spider)🕷️ -Artist...will  go around in their free time, in the garb of a neighbour, friend,  relative and but above all, your ALL-time and ONLY Well-wisher. These 🕷️ -Artists go looking for nooks and corners in other people's mind and share stories and plant cobwebs in your mind. The problem here arises is  that, these cobwebs have no relevance to  your life-situation  yet affect you...they imperceptibly hijack your mind. In a way, these 🕷️-Artists gently nudge and lead you into unwanted biases in your otherwise straight life,  pollute the sanctity of your thoughts, and create a kind of suspicion and insecurity of - 'it shouldn't happen to me?'. And most often, our loved ones unknowingly become the targets of this unfounded suspicion whom we so often, want to protect. Children being the most vulnerable soft-targets  because they can't choose their parents🤣, parents personality, handling of  situations (of which children are seldom part of ) by parents.🕷️-Artist also harm the reputation of people/ self esteem without knowing and checking the facts... mostly ALWAYS. Would  I like myself to be at their visual end?...Most Certainly NOT? Would You...?I Hope not!

So I bet 😌 you want to have no spiders in your  beautiful home... one should keep it that way only. Life is so🌈 beautiful and pristine,so ever giving and nurturing... let's keep it beautiful and chaste, simple and light... 

Don't let🕷️'s come near you...😂,...Nor be one 😔, and most definitely keep your home/ your mental space.... 🕷️-free and cobweb-free...

Take care 🤱 and Happy Reading🤗